What it means to be female now -- and like it.

"Everyone has three lives: a public life, a private life, and a secret life."

Gabriel García Márquez (via vanityfair)

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Do not teach your daughters to be ‘pretty.’

Do not entomb her in a pretty pink tower
and insist that only the degree of her physical appeal
may set her free.
Teach her to fight her way out,
to consume books and spit knowledge
to lesser boys who insist she is just beautiful
and nothing more.

Teach her to love her body
not to manipulate and put a price tag on herself
as a defined worth
she shall be immeasurable
she shall be more than this.

Do not let her break herself down
when the boy in kindergarden hits her
because he likes her.
What are you really teaching her?
Pain and love are not synonymous
neither are pretty and perfection.

Teach her to be kind
to be harsh
to be demure
to be wild
to be sensitive
to be thick-skinned

But good god,

Do not teach your daughters to be ‘pretty.’

"

Michelle K., Do Not Teach Your Daughters to Be ‘Pretty.’ (via michellekpoems)

"You’re a romantic, and that’s good. It just means you’ll probably date a few extra losers, randos and pervs. But I really do think you’ll be rewarded for it in the end. I mean, not rewarded romantically. Rewarded like, ‘Oh, look! There’s TWO bags of chips in the vending machine!’"

– Peter, Mindy Project (via omgskr)

— “16 Ways To Help A Friend With An Eating Disorder”

#eating disorders  #anorexia  #recovery  #fitspo  #body image  #self esteem  #body love  #bulimia  #neda  

"My response [to criticisms of Black female comedians] shouldn’t even have to exist. Black women are funny. I don’t think the conversation sould be about if we are funny or not, it should be why aren’t we thought of."

Nicole Byer (via sparkamovement)

"Learn to say ‘no’ without explaining yourself."

– (via luhansangel)

"I felt like I had to fit into a box I could never fit in. It made me feel dysphoric about not just my body, but who I was. I’m a clumsy, boyish, awkward female, that couldn’t do an attractive striptease to save their life AKA the antithesis of your typical “sexy female”… There is more than just one kind of sexy and its all subjective. I’ve realized that Im sexy in my own way and I’m much happier now."

11 Ways Mainstream Porn Misleads Women About Sex

#sex  #porn  #mainstream porn  #porn culture  #relationships  #body image  #what is sexy  

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